Thursday, January 21, 2010

Ready for Spring



After Mia got up from her nap, she took it upon herself to do a little shopping in her closet. She found the summer clothes I'd set aside, hoping they will fit her again this season. I asked her to pose for a photo, and she showed off not only her outfit but also her ballet moves. It is so nice to be able to get her to pose -- and smile a genuine smile instead of that cheesy grin we've been seeing so much of.
We'll be changing before we go out for the evening.


Saturday, January 16, 2010

The Boss

Mia has been pretty bossy lately, and while I admire her assertiveness, I am of the view that few things are less attractive than a bossy 3-year-old girl. We are coping with this by suggesting that instead of barking out orders to her parents (or nanny, whom she has also started to boss), she needs to put on her nicest voice and say, "Mom, can you please .....?" If she barks out an order, I have learned the best response is to stop what I am doing, look directly at her, cock my head, and say nothing. When she says, "Please, Mom, can you....?" my standard response is, "Why yes, since you asked so nicely, I'd be happy to put you milk in the sparkly purple cup." (She tries to capitalize on this by asking for candy and cookies, but I'm too smart for that.)

I will admit that I am sometimes impressed by her attempts at persuasion (to put it nicely). Case in point: Last night we were driving in the car and I was practicing my Chinese, repeating after the woman on the CD I got in the mail the other day. Not only would Mia not practice along with me, she made it clear she did not want to listen to me.
Mia: "Mom, stooooooop!"
Me: "I'm practicing my Chinese. Why do I have to stop?"
Mia: "Mom, it's dangerous!"
Me: "That's silly. It's not dangerous!"
Mia: "I am disappointed! I am mad!"

That was enough for me to turn on the Andrew Lloyd Weber Broadway hits album, where Mia requested her favorite song, "By Jeeves."


Friday, January 15, 2010

Bedtime Stories

We've been having a tough time getting Mia to go to bed at a decent hour (i.e., before 9:30 p.m.). She is so full of energy, she just doesn't want to wind down. She begs for "more milky" (oh, yeah, she is also going through a phase where she thinks it is cute to add a "Y" on the end of her nouns), insists she is hungry (I am not sympathetic to this, after she eats a snack that would put The Very Hungry Caterpiller to shame), puts on and takes off various nightwear (usually ending up with just a camisole and a night-time diaper) and on and on.
The only thing that really works is getting her into the rocking chair and turning out the lights. That is her cue to ask, "Mom, tell me about my day." I first did this one night when I was having a particularly difficult time winding down, and it has become a nightly ritual. It goes something like this (with daily variations, of course), "Daddy woke you up but you said you wanted to sleep some more so he went off to work. Then Mommy woke you up and you said you wanted to sleep some more but Mommy said we have to get ready for school. You decided to wear your red dress and the purple bow...." The plain-old everyday details continue as I recount the days events in my most soothing, hypnotherapy-worthy voice. Periodically, Mia breaks in with, "You forgot....." at which point I exclaim, "You know, you're right!" and rewind the tape, adding that tidbit. Sometimes, she editorializes on my description of something we did together ("... and Mom was not happy") or announces with great authority something that happened at preschool ("Evan had an accident"). Since I can rarely on direct questioning get her to tell me anything about what she did in preschool, I like having these little windows on her day - even when she tells me, "Sofie told me to take my shoes and socks off on the playground and I got a time out."
After I recount the big and small events of the day, I wrap up with the standard finale. "And then you sat in my lap and I told you about your day."

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Snowbound??

Being from the Upper Midwest, I find it amusing how a little snow can shut things down here. Last Thursday we had a dusting of snow (they said an inch on TV but look for yourself - I'm not sure what kind of ruler they were using) and it shut down schools and most businesses on Friday and Saturday. (Some were still closed on Monday.) To be fair, the thin layer of ice underneath the snow was the real problem. It was darn cold even by my standards (windchills had to be near zero), but Mia and I got out for a few minutes. Lest you were wondering about my parenting skills, be informed that I tried very hard to persuade her to zip up her jacket!! (I gave up, deciding I was not going to win that war and it would be easier just to whisk her inside at the first signs of hypothermia.) It was also her idea to wear the sunglasses, though it was only because she liked the look. I can never get her to actually use them for their intended purpose.
Where was Jeff, you ask? He got up early and applied I don't know how many pounds of ice melter to our super-steep driveway, then headed in to the office.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Back At It

Between work, preparations for Christmas, and a laptop that quit on Christmas Day (Merry Christmas from HP - just 39 days after the 12-month warranty expired), it has been a long time since I posted. We had a lovely holiday that included a trip to Minnesota and lots of time with both sets of grandparents and many aunts, uncles, and cousins. This year we decided to stay in a hotel (with points, not $ - in case you were thinking I'd won the lottery) and found it reduced everyone's stress levels. Mia is generally a pretty good traveler, considering how difficult air travel is these days. However, she can get cranky when she is over-stimulated. Staying at a hotel was a perfect solution - they had less than 10% occupancy so it felt like we had the place to ourselves.
We didn't buy Mia too many gifts this year. (And if I haven't mentioned it, we've decided not to play up Santa here.) It didn't seem sensible or necessary - I haven't even put all her birthday presents into play yet. She got some great gifts from our relatives, including Kai-Lan's Trip to China DVD (I bet she'd watch it 5 or 6 times a day if we let her), a baby carriage with removable carrier, a PlayMobil greenhouse set, and an airplane. Mia is really into pretend play now, so we're having a lot of fun. Too bad the relatives aren't here to see how much enjoyment she is getting from these. And, I'm really glad we kept it modest on our end.
As for me, I have been getting some contract work and the prospects for 2010 are looking up. As far as the computer is concerned, I decided that as an independent consultant without a company Help Desk to call, it made sense to switch to a Mac. So far, so good.
Hope you liked the Christmas card. I didn't get around to designing and making them until mid-December, whereas I used to start them in August! It was wonderful to get pictures of so many of our China travel companions - what a beautiful bunch of girls they are.